What do I tell the wife?

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What do I tell the wife?

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Disclaimer: Ladies, you don't want to read this. (tongue in cheek, dry sense of humour. actually ladies, your opinions would be welcomed.)

I have a confession to make. I was always one of those guys who would sit there reading his WoodenBoat or some other rag and wonder what in the world you need more than one boat for. (Never mind the conflicting fact that for the last 10 years I have maintained a stable of at least two different motorcycles.) :roll: Now I find myself in that very position.

I have an LS-16 in need of a serious cleaning and some relatively minor repairs to make her sailable. And I will be picking up my recently purchased C-22 in about 2 weeks. Well, needless to say, my long suffering and decidedly better half says we don't need two boats, especially not on our little 1/4 acre lot. She says the LS-16 has to go.

I have attempted to counter with logic. (a major mistake when talking to a woman, their idea of logic is NOT logical!) The nearest lake to us (20 mins) has an LOA limit of 17', so the LS-16 is perfect for a quick day trip to the lake and back or that afternoon stress-relief sail. And I'm situated about 2 hours from the Finger Lakes, 4 hours from the Chesapeake, and the same to Lakes Erie or Ontario. Blanchard Lake is about an hour away.

So I'm sure there are others on this board who have successfully overcome this obstacle. I'd like to know how. My first thought is to simply avoid the subject until she's sailed on both boats and had a chance to appreciate the "wisdom" of keeping them both. What do you think?
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Well Mike,
Here is the truth.
There is no wisdom in more than one boat. However, how good of a salesman are you?? LOL!!!



Seriously.
A long LONG time ago my bride and I were at a life changing crossroad.
I've always owned a sailboat of some sort with the exception of a very brief period of my life. The pot started to boil when I had a 28' Kent Ranger. Basically a race boat. My bride rapidly lost interest in sailing. Well, sailing with me. Our crossroad decision was to stop sailing or change the boat to a more suitable boat for the family. YIKES! Stop sailing? Not an option. However my financial side did not agree on a new boat. You see, we owned the 28'er outright and had very small marina payments. What a waist of money if my bride still would not sail with me after a different boat was purchased. Then I'd be stuck with debt, a boat I did not prefer, and still sailing alone. We agree to make a list of what we wanted in a boat. Well, actually two lists. You see, I made a list without her input and she made a list without my input. That way we could not influence each others ideas. Once the TWO lists were complete we combined them and started shopping. We were realistic in our lists. You know, the 120 schooner was out. However a permenatnly mounted head was on the list. Preassure hot and cold water was on the list etc. We searched and searched. It was easy to find a matching boat but extremely difficult to find one in our price range. We persisted. One day we saw a flyer near the marina bathroom. Hey, there is a boat for sale with the same name as our boat! Hey! Same dock but on the other side of the marina! LOL! For giggles lets go look! We arrived and the misses from the other boat was wearing the almost exact same ( unique) shirt my wife had on! WOW! That is wierd! Well, we bought the boat. It was perfect at the time. My wife now had a vested interest in sailing! It was no longer MY hobby that she was enjoying. It was now OUR hobby and soon to be life style! Now I have a ready and willing crew member, best friend and mate for life who enjoys the water like I do. With a common interest and shared experiences we can forgive each other our shortcomings. Noteably one of mine being owning MORE THAN ONE SAILBOAT! LOL!
Notice I indicated ONE of MY shortcomings! LOL! I have many!


I guess all I'm trying to say is get her interested. Share the experience. Take her out and get her to enjoy the hobby. Figure out her reasons for not liking sailing and adjust to her needs! My biggest thing was to quit trying to race every boat on the water! LOL! All my wife saw was a high stress situation with a finicky captain when all she wanted to do was go relax, play, and be together!


Now that is not to say you will get a carte blanc oppurtunity to go buy all the sailboats in town however she will likely understand and forgive the extra boat!

After all THAT, I recommend immediatly cleaning and beautifying BOTH boats. It may be as simple as she thinks they look ugly. A bristol sailboat is a beautiful thing. A sailboat with a bit of moss, dirt, rusty trailer, and rigging in disarray is quite frankly an eye sore!



Contrary to the first statement, I would love for the sailing ladies to chime in here! I bet you get a better responce from them than from any guy! I mean, hey, we're guys aren't we? LOL!

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69Shark wrote:There is no wisdom in more than one boat. ... Contrary to the first statement, I would love for the sailing ladies to chime in here! I bet you get a better responce from them than from any guy! I mean, hey, we're guys aren't we? LOL! -Scott
Scott, what a neat story! And a happy ending no less. Deep in the innermost dim recesses of my mind I know you are right, there is no wisdom in having two boats. And truth be told, one motorcycle would suffice for 90% of the riding that I do also. (deep sigh I have edited my OP. The "disclaimer" was supposed to keep me from getting flamed because someone did not understand my sense of humour.

How'd you know my LS-16 has moss on it? Actually, I believe they are lichens not moss.

I have to give my wife a great deal of credit. She didn't even blink when I said I wanted to bid on the C-22. It's nice having wives like ours, isn't it.
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LOL! It's all good!
You won't get flamed here. This forum is not like the bigger ones where anything you say gets great responses and crappy responses! Here everyone seams to want to just enjoy sailng and share the knowledge they have.

There are a lot of great people here and I've made many online friends and even had the honor of meeting a few of them!

So,
tell us about the motorcycle stable .. . .
What bikes? What type of riding? Been riding long? Hard core 1%er? Zip-N-Splat? Fair weather? Pictures would be good!

Curious minds want to know . .

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Just tell her the truth, I want another boat.

I owned my last sailboat in 1981 and was compelled to sell her due to the recessions at that time.
I started sculling in 1988 and currently own four rowing shells and I've also built four wooden shells in the last twenty years. My current wife has never been interested in rowing although I've taught a number of folks how to scull, she only tried one time.
Last fall I told her that I wanted to buy a sailboat that was large enough to take family out on, something between 25 and 30 feet, she wanted nothing to do with it. She went looking with me a couple of times but wouldn't even get out of the car to take a closer look. She would have no problem with me plunking down 8k for another racing shell, but that same amount, any amount for a sailboat, no way.
When I told her I bought the C26, she did not speak to or even look at me for two days. She's coming around. She has offered to make new curtains and cushion covers for the entire boat. She asks about all the work I'm doing inside, the faults and my fixes. She has decided that I should paint the boat green, when I get around to it.

I know she does not like the boat sitting in the driveway and my push back on the "honey do" list, but she is coming around.

Be honest, tell it's a sickness!
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Post by EmergencyExit »

"Be honest, tell it's a sickness!"

Leatherneck may not have heard of the 12 step program I'm in so I'l repeat it again.

First mate says if I so much as go within 12 steps of another boat....well you get the picture :wink:


Seriously you have a good point on the 2 boats and it is the same reason I have the little Coronado 15 -there's a very small state park lake near me, and EE is a bit of a ways away.

Of course that doesn't explain the Cal 21 that is next to EE at the club, nor the Rhodes Bantam next to the Coronado in the back yard...
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Be honest, tell HER it's a sickness!
sorry, my ADHD coming through
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I appreciate your dilemma. 69Shark makes the best argument I have heard for almost anything. I certainly can't add to that....given my success...or lack thereof....in building a gun collection...uhh...then bamboo fly rods...then vintage sports cars, for the last 35 years. Good luck Letherneck!

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Please note the name of my boat below, and you will immediately know that I am of no use in this dilemna.
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I have a Sunfish as well, I told the wife I bought the Sunfish to train the kids and grandkids...............and to sail when we go to the lake where I can't get the c-22 in. I lived on the water almost my whole life and it calls like a siren. It is the only real vice I have so my better half tolerates it :)
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Leatherneck, Hang in there. You can do it.Clean up th LS "to make it more sellable" then take her out in it just to see how it sails. I have a great wife and 11 boats. They all have different purposes and she enjoys them all. They include C26, 2 Venture 22, Prindle 16, M scow. O'Day Osprey,Sunfish, 20' Hydrasport w/ 150 Yam., 18' Manatee, 13' Glaspar,and a 16' open runabout. Our son has a Prindle 16, Laser, Phantom, Mirror Dingy( we built) and a sailboard. Our daughter has a Prindle 18, Sunfish, and a Waverunner. Our grandkids 5 and under have the Snark our kids learned in.Kyle will start sailing it this summer.
Just make her a part of the fun. Explain the benifits and advantages of the 2 boats. If you're really good you can make it sound like its her idea to keep the second boat. HaHa.
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My 1st mate suggested we should sell the C-22, says we don't need 2 cruisers but what she said next blew my mind She asked "doesn't Chrysler make a 13ft daysailer, find one of those."

If I was going to stay on the lakes I would keep the C-22 (lol I still might keep it) It did get our foot in the door and its no coincidence that our C-26 is only a bigger version of the C-22 lol some can't make out the diffence with out counting windows.

yes I failed the 12 step program hope you have better luck
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